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In 2017, there were no adoptee resources online.

How To Be Adopted grew from an anonymous blog into a community connecting adoptees to boost wellbeing through ‘being seen’.

Claire describes How To Be Adopted in 35 seconds…

Meet Claire

Hi I’m Claire. I am a UK domestic adoptee in reunion-ish. I started How To Be Adopted after finding no resources for adopted people online and limited resources in real life.

My aim is to connect adoptees from the UK and around the world to share our stories and tips on coping as an adopted person in a non-adopted world! I also want to give adoptees more of a voice and challenge the dominant social narrative around adoption. 

Listen to Claire’s interview on AdopteesOn.

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  • "It was life changing to be with people who totally understand how I as an adoptee see the world and how my head works!"

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  • “It’s such a wonderful community and the only place I feel completely human and like I belong.”

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  • Connecting adoptees online and in person

  • Popular speaker for PAC-UK, One Adoption, We Are Family, Adoption England, Adoptees On

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