Could my being a fragile person who easily falls apart be a consequence of not being held? Not being held when I was born, at least not by my mother.
Adoptee advocate burnout - Claire's story
As adoptees, our nervous systems can need lots of additional care and tending. You can have years of talking therapy but the body holds the score!
The dread of telling a therapist you're adopted in case they pull the plug
March 20th is the deadline to respond to the gov consultation
Introducing Adult Adoptee Movement
Find out more about this wonderful new organisation dedicated to adoptee rights.
How To Be Adopted Lake District retreat June 9-11th 2023
Answers to frequently asked questions about the 9-11 June retreat, hosted by Gilli Bruce and Lara Leon
Valid - a guest blog by adoptee Helen Mary
Poignant and relatable blog touching on adoption reunion and the courage of adoptees
What is complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (c-ptsd) as an adoptee
New guest blog by adoptee, Em
A life-changing day for adoptees to gather in community
Testimonials on our first adoptee-only virtual retreat for National Adoption Week
Thoughts on the PAC-UK adoptee day in London for NAW 2022
Connecting with others and an emotional high after a difficult National Adoption Week.
Adoptee-only virtual retreat for National Adoption Week 2022: what to expect
Find out more about the sessions we have planned for the day!
‘Did you have a good adoption?’ and other dumb questions…
Pondering this question as I contemplate my sister’s path and my own…
After the Guardian article, where else can you find How To Be Adopted?
An overview of all the places How To Be Adopted has appeared, including the AdopteesOn podcast - woo!
7 tips for adoptees who are new to this blog
What we wish we knew when we first started thinking and talking about what it means to be adopted.
Closed adoption in Aotearoa New Zealand - new book 'Adopted' by Jo Willis and Brigitta Baker
Adopted is the powerful and honest account of two of the thousands of children adopted during the era of closed adoption in Aotearoa New Zealand, between 1955 and the early 1980s.
Dancing on eggshells - guest post from adoptee David
Moving and ultimately uplifting post on adoption reunion and people pleasing…
An update on the Ofsted regulations that obstruct counselling for adoptees in the UK
Update from Gilli Bruce on the Ofsted ruling preventing adoptees from accessing counselling
Burnout as an adoptee advocate
My recent experiences of anxiety and burnout as I try to roll out How To Be Adopted services, events, conferences and more! Please be kind ;)
What is EMDR and why can it be helpful for adopted people? guest blog from David Benjamin
Therapist and adoptee David Benjamin explains all about EMDR and how it can help with adoption trauma
A letter to 13-year old me from adoptee Kate
“YOU ARE NOT BROKEN. You are not defective. You are not unworthy” - guest post from Kate